Think for a moment, what is your inner voice telling you about yourself?
“I will never be able to lose weight….” “It is so hard to make money…. “I procrastinate…“my friends are better than me…” I will never buy the house of my dreams… “and you can go on and on and more and more non-supportive thoughts will come to you every minute, every day.
This is your toxic mindset. Bad news is; if you are not aware, it will totally hold you back from your aims and goals. It’s pretty clear that those fixed mindsets will cause you where might feel like a failure. As a result, you don’t learn as much and it’s hard to get better.
What can you do about this? How can you yourself, eliminate your fixed and actually achieve your goals?
You can take action to change your beliefs. In my experience, the only I know how to the type of person that you believe that you are, is to build new and better habits for yourself and to do with small, repeated actions.
When your beliefs are stronger than your hold-‐backs and your fears, achieve anything you want. I am and was always a trooper on that. Since I was a kid, when I wanted something, nothing was going to hold me back from getting it. My desires were so deep and willingness to do the work to achieve my goals kept me from listening to the non-supportive voices. Not an easy job, sometimes you have to fight a battle and speak louder so you listen to the voice that supports you. You go through ups and downs and the only thing that really helps is consistency and to take one small step at a time so your habit is created to win.
3 years ago, I started running, something I always thought that wasn’t for me. “My cardio is not good… I don’t like on hard surfaces… the weather in Vancouver is so rainy…” you see? My mind putting me down and trying to take me away from my goal.
However, I the challenge and decided to go one day at a time, having in mind that running was the goal and to let go of the results. I simply focused on the process, showing up, sticking to the schedule and “not quitting.” The results showed up after a few months. My actions shifted the way that I saw myself. I was focusing on the process of building a better habit rather than the result.
Your daily actions will change what you believe about yourself and the person you become. When you change the way you talk to yourself, don’t get attached to the immediate results and commit to the process of changing your old way of thinking; you are building a strong relationship with your brain and instead of taking you away from your desires it will lead you to enjoy the results.