Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you and yourself. When you decide to forgive it brings you peace that really helps you go on with life.
Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. I want you to look at your life right now and reflect. Is there something you are holding on for situations that happened in the past that you are not able to let go? Do you hold any anger or resentment to anyone in your life? Are you living as a victim and holding a grudge of a situation from your past?
Peace is not possible without forgiveness. Martin Luther King once said, “Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.”
In my experience, forgiveness gives you emotional freedom, and making the powerful decision to let go any heaviness in your heart will help you achieve that.
Close your eyes for a few seconds, breath in and out. Inhale the feeling of freedom, lightness and love. Exhale all the toxic thoughts, hurt, feeling of despair and revenge. Repeat a couple of times, clear your mind.
Address your feelings, think about a person or a situation you are angry with. Ask yourself; “What emotional shortcomings caused the pain and anger I am feeling now?”
Then, imagine the feeling dissolving. Breath deeply again and when you exhale let that feeling go. Practice a couple of times and it will get easier and lighter every time.
Forgiveness is a shifting solution for transforming anger. It liberates you from the trap of endless revenge so that you can experience more joy and connection.